FemDom Spanking Letters - Volume Twenty-Three

Jacqueline,
I had such a good experience with you and I wanted to give you some feedback. Feel free to post this so that others can know that when it comes to getting disciplined and having a true spanking experience, you’re the one to see.

What particularly impressed me about our meeting was the fact that:
A) I really felt like I got disciplined for something. Like we talked about, I reached adulthood feeling like I "missed out" on getting disciplined as I was growing up.
B) I feel like I got disciplined for real. In other words, it was the closest thing to a real spanking I would have (should have) gotten years ago. I got to finally feel like I should not repeat my actions if I don't want to have a sore bottom. It really does hurt to sit down but oddly enough, I am not marked. You are truly skilled!
C) I loved your ability to role-play and really get into the parts. I especially loved the one where I was spanked for stealing money from Auntie’s purse. You got me to the point where the spanking was hurting for real but yet not so bad that I couldn’t take it. I also appreciated your openness in letting me experience the other side. That was awesome!

In all, I'm very glad I decided to come see you. I’ll let you know when I can make my way out there again. Next time, I might ask for 12 of your best cane strokes before hitting the road!

Thanks,
- Jerry

Hi Jerry,
It was great meeting you and I truly had a wonderful evening. I loved role-playing and you came up with some imaginative scenarios. I know you thought of me the entire trip home. That was a long ride. Drop me a line and let me know that you got back safe and sound.
- Jacqueline

Jacqueline,
Specifically, what kinds of humiliation do you employ during a session?
- Tommy

Tommy,
Humiliation is something unique to everyone. Some people find the act of getting their pants pulled down and be spanked bare bottom extremely humiliating. Others are humiliated by being forced to strip naked. Still others, get their mouths washed out with soap, be told to stand in the corner, write punishment lines, etc.

I always get to know someone well before we do a session so I can get inside his or her head and administer the proper kinds of punishment use the words that will make you tick.

Spanking in and of itself is humiliating; probably much more than traditional whipping. It is really being cut down to size and treated someone who is naughty. I think the act of admitting you need to be spanked is humiliating.

I also think it’s humiliating to be force to get down on your knees and kiss the ass of the person who spanked you. The list can go on and on….The important thing to know what is humiliating to you?

So, tell me your secrets, naughty boy!
- Jacqueline

Jacqueline,
The best way I am thinking you can probably help me is to post this letter out on your site under letters so your other readers can see it. I would greatly appreciate it. Not a day goes by when I don't think about being laid across the lap of a sexy, gorgeous, no nonsense woman for a fetish play and disciplinary spanking. Even better is if she OTK spanks and disciplines me in front of other sexy girl friends that just sit there casually and watch the whole thing.

In between watching, they laugh, giggle, and talk girl talk while they have me under their complete control. I need to be OTK spanked, disciplined, scolded, guided, and corrected in this way by one or more women like Jenny, Sandy, Karen, and especially Roberta. I loved reading her letter. I would so love and appreciate her if she punished and disciplined me the way she does this man who meets with her now. I think I need regular appointments with women like you.

I also agree with you Jacqueline, when you say that this longing will not go away in their men. We need discipline and guidance. However, it is important (as you have said many times) never to spank out of anger. I am no exception. I now have to have this need satisfied. Thank you for being there.
- Paul

Thank you, Paul
I think you have a good understanding of this matter. Women need to be educated on real ways to keep their men in line. I think many marriages would be much happier if some boundaries and guidelines were set.

You need to talk to whatever woman you choose to be your mate. Communicate your desires and needs. And, more importantly find out what she wants too. Remember spanking and discipline is a two way street. It’s about giving and receiving. Or both.
- Jacqueline

Dear Ms. Omerta,
Sorry if my English is not the best, but I come from The Netherlands. Like all the visitors off your very interesting website I love and need a good OTK bare bottom spanking. It is difficult to find a Dutch woman or girlfriend who will share my desires. I visited a professional Mistress for a session. Trouble is she didn’t understand that I wanted a real spanking. She just played a game, gave me a few swats and sent me on my way.

I think American woman are more for spanking than the Dutch Woman. When I visit your website and read the letters, I am always a little bit jealous and wish you could take me over your knee, bare my bottom and use the hairbrush and paddle on my naughty behind.

My mother always spanked me, but strangely, it did not hurt. It was the fear of getting spanked, but that was all. Ms. Omerta, please keep up the good work. You and your website are top.
Your fan,
- Theo

Hi Theo,
Maybe you need to teach a Dutch woman about spanking. Communicate what you want. I know the pros in the Netherlands are more into S/M but I'm sure you can find someone who is willing to learn. Let me know how it goes.

Meanwhile, maybe you should plan a visit to the United States and learn about good old-fashioned American discipline from me.
- Jacqueline

Dear Jacqueline,
As a young man I was raised in a loving female dominated household with twin older sisters and my mother. When my sisters were 15 years old my mother allowed them to spank me although I was only 4 years younger. Mother also spanked me regularly.

With this background I found it difficult to find a suitable partner. I was completely conditioned to accepting female authority and discipline and really struggled to find a suitable partner until I met Jane 5 years ago. She is 8 years older than me and an authoritative disciplinarian. We are married and very much in love.

Jane is my wife, mistress, lover and disciplinarian. I am regularly spanked and strapped, occasionally whipped with a cane or riding whip and occasionally have my penis smacked with a 30-cm. ruler. I do all the housework and cooking and pamper Jane as much as I can. I massage her feet, her back and her thighs, I spend lengthy periods with my head between her thighs and sometimes underneath her bottom.

I adore her body and she loves me lavishing attention upon it. She also knows how much I love to see her body and she will indulge me on occasions by walking around in the house nude, bending over to get things from drawers and in cupboards and generally teasing me to distraction. We do have penetrative sex with her in the female superior position and on other occasions she allows me to masturbate either in the bathroom or sometimes in her presence.

My upbringing I am sure is responsible for this unusual state of affairs but I am truly fortunate to have found another loving women to replace the 3 family women who set me on this path of loving and needing female domination.
- Phillip

Dear Phillip,
Yes, you are lucky to have found Jane. I’m sure everyone will want to know how you met such a woman? I’m guessing that you may have picked up on something about her demeanor and she did the same with you. Sounds like you are a match made in heaven. I’m happy that you were able to find a woman who understands your naughty boy psyche and takes care of you properly.

In turn, it sounds like you take care of her very well also. I’m so glad you shared your lifestyle with me and my readers. Stay in touch.
- Jacqueline

Miss Omerta,
Like many others, I have thought and fantasized about spanking for just about as long as I can remember. The ones I received as a child had absolutely no "pleasurable" feelings associated, but the ones I play out in my head are extremely exciting, both emotionally and sexually. The line between pleasure and pain is a paradox that I've come to accept as part of the fetish, without even attempting to explain it.

My earliest recollection of "interest" in spanking goes back to an experience in the 3rd grade. It was a very small private school in a small town, where teachers were free to incorporate the paddle to keep students in line, whether through intimidation, or actual use.

During a basketball game late one evening, nearly everyone was in the gym, but the school building and classrooms were open, and only a handful of students were hanging out in the building. To this day, I really don't know what compelled me to do it, but I went into the building, where the emergency lights were the only ones on, strolled down the long, sparsely lit hallway, and into my classroom. After peeking back down the hall to make sure no one was near, I quietly closed the door. The classroom also only had one emergency light on, so there were recesses in the room that were rather dark.

At this point, something compelled me go over to the teacher's desk, open the bottom drawer, and take out her paddle. I took the implement and walked around behind a bookshelf, where if anyone walked by, they wouldn't be able to see me. I recall an incredibly exhilarating feeling as I stood there holding the paddle. After admiring it for a while, as well as looking and listening for anyone in the hallway, I began to rub the paddle against my bottom. The only paddlings I knew of at that point were all applied fully clothed, so after I spent a few moments enjoying the rubbing sensation on top of my jeans, I started to very lightly spank myself. Naturally, I was very cautious about making too much noise and being discovered, so I kept it very light.

After a few moments of this, I got a little more brave and started doing it a little harder, but still being rather quiet. The excitement level continued to increase, but I wasn't really able to feel the paddle very well through my clothes, so I decided to lower my jeans and try it with just my underwear.

I still wasn't able to make enough noise to get the sensation I wanted, but I remember the overwhelmingly exhilarating feeling of standing there with the paddle. By this time, it was getting late, so after a few more moments I put the paddle back and rejoined the crowd in the gym.

Needless to say, this only served to wet my appetite for such activities, and I've had spanking in mind ever since. I never forgot that first experience, and deep down I always knew that someday I would have to actively pursue my interest in spanking by finding someone who understands what it's all about, who can work with me to explore some of my fantasies.

Fortunately, I have found a professional dominant lady in my city, who is very good at what she does, and she seems willing to work with me to allow me to explore my fantasies. I've had a couple of sessions with her, and it's really charged me up for more.

I've spent a great deal of time reading all the info on your web site, and I must say that it's very refreshing to see that there are ladies like you out there. I applaud your efforts to educate people about spanking, and the folks in your area are lucky to have someone with such obvious talents in their community. I wish I were closer, as I would really love to session with you.

I was wondering if you could answer a question for me. As you might imagine from my notes above, I really have an affinity for bare bottom paddling. I don't have a lot of padding back there (tiny hiney), so I'm looking for a paddle that won't bruise, but will provide a lot of sting at the surface. Ideally, I would like to have one that can provide an absolutely unbearable sting when used full-force, with less risk of bruising. I have my eye on the "Maple Stinger", but I saw a comment on one of your pages that the Sintra paddles are quite stingy. Can you please offer a suggestion?

I hope you are doing well, and maybe I'll get a chance to session with you someday.
Thanks,
- Vic

Hi Vic,
It’s amazing how charged our feelings about spanking can be. I can imagine the excitement you felt feeling that paddle against your bare bottom for the first time. The exhilaration of the sensation combined with the fear of being caught are to us spankos as thrilling as extreme sport activities. I think some of the thrill is the fear of being caught as well as the embarrassment of having pants lowered and having the bottom exposed waiting for punishment.

You obviously really like the idea of traditional paddling. Others, like the more nurturing feel of OTK. Either way, spanking is a rush and I’m glad you are finally getting to indulge in your passion. Congratulations! I’m glad you found someone to help you explore.

Unfortunately, you are in a paradoxical situation. You are turned on by traditional school type paddling which would always feature a rectangular paddle made of wood. There’s no way around the fact that wood generally marks the skin. The more you play, the less you’ll be marked. Nevertheless, it’s a material you need to be mindful of if you are worried about bruising.

The sintra paddle definitely stings but the chances of bruising are far less. I like using the sintra and paddles made of the sturdy plastic can definitely teach an unforgettable lesson without damage. However, they need to be used by someone who has some experience and finesse. The paddle cannot be slammed against your bottom full force. Wrist action is best. I think it’s worth a try.

Stay in touch and I’d love to have you bend over and take a paddling from me. Schoolroom, sorority initiations and tons of other paddling scenarios will make your night with me very memorable and fun. Thank you for sharing such a personal memory with us.
- Jacqueline

Jacqueline,
As someone experienced in sensuality and fetish behavior can you tell me if it is abnormal or unusual for a masculine male, like me, to become obedient, submissive and docile after being spanked by a strong authoritative dominant female.

Thank you for allowing me to write to you and the courtesy you have extended to me.
Respectfully,
- Don

Dear Don,
I think you describe the universal feelings of anyone who has submitted to a hard punishment spanking. I have made even the toughest guy blubber like a baby after he’s been over my knee.

You see the act of spanking requires that one admit they have transgressed and deserve to get punished. Though they might not feel like that right away, the goal of a spanking is to have someone see the error of their ways. A proper spanking would induce the feeling of being sorry and contrite.

So, no matter how big you are; how strong you are; how masculine you are: You are never too old to get your pants pulled down and get a good, sound spanking on your bare bottom. You know you deserve it, naughty boy!
- Jacqueline

Hi Jacqueline,
What can I say? Friday night was just incredible, to put it mildly. You had mentioned that the second session would be even better than the first; you were right (but the first was also wonderful; I certainly don’t want to take anything away from that one). I guess I felt a bit more relaxed this time, since I know you better now.

I LOVED everything you planned Friday night, AND the things not planned. Being spanked across your knees in panties while bound and gagged was truly exciting. I also enjoyed being spanked while being gagged and tied down to your spanking bench, again wearing panties. I'm glad that turns you on because it really adds to the excitement of the
session.

Thank you again.
- Monty

Hi Monty,
The real important part of your letter is that the second session was even better than the first. The more I know you, the more I can tap into your secret triggers, the better our session will be.

Though being bound and gagged is not generally considered traditional domestic discipline, I know that it is something that really gets you going. When you get going; I get going.

All play is a two way street. People vibe off of each other. When I know that someone is having a really good time, and is excited, the feeling is infectious.

You are a joy to be with and I love our conversations. I know just as our sessions will get better and better, our friendship will grow more and more.
Thank you for your sweet email. I had fun too.
- Jacqueline

Ms Jacqueline,
I wanted to share with you the disappointing session I recently had with a Dominatrix. Now I have been in to spanking since I was a teen. Fantasizing about cute teachers or neighbor ladies taking me over their knee. I have tried to get girlfriends and my ex wife to enjoy my needs both as top and bottom. These although sometimes successful never really satisfied me usually because my playmate could not give or receive as hard as I would have liked. So recently single again I sought out a Dom to full fill my needs. I found a Pro Domme on a connection website.

After exchanging a few emails we agreed on a time and day. I was to report to her place and phone when I was 10 minutes away. When I discussed my desires with this Dom I was assured that my needs were understood and not a problem. So when I was ten minutes from her place I phoned. This was after a couple of days of anticipation and excitement. She told me that she hadn't been feeling well and asked if I could give her an extra twenty minutes. I asked if she would like to reschedule and she said no that 20 minutes was fine. I waited at a nearby coffee shop and then proceeded to her house.
I arrived at her place and followed her instructions. I took my shoes off and proceeded the room where we were to meet and talk before playing. Like I said earlier I had made it clear what I wanted but she tried to gage me to see if I was open to other BDSM actions. I assured that I was there for my OTK and that was all I wanted to do. She kept suggesting that I might enjoy having my holes filled and I assured her that I would not. I am not saying that some folks wouldn't enjoy this type of play but it is definitely not for me.

I was then told to undress, hang up my clothes and sit on a futon. When she returned she tried again to get me to open up to more play than just OTK. When I said that I was fine with what we had agreed upon before I got there she instructed me to stand up. Now at this point my excitement should have been near explosion but a was deflated because of the failed anticipation. She informed me that she was going to warm me up by spanking me over a spanking horse. She had me bend over and asked that I imagine that my hands were cuffed. Trust me when I say I don't need any handcuffs to keep me in place when I am about to be spanked. She proceeded to give me 5 or six swats with a gloved hand. Then she asked me how that was? I told her that I did not care for the gloves. She took them off and gave me two or three more swats before asking me to stand up.

She then asked if I had ever been whipped and what was used. I told her that I had been lightly with a Cat O' nine but that I was only interested in OTK spanking. She then said that the futon would open flat and that she could secure me to it and use a bunch of different toys. She then pulled out a butt plug and asked if I had reconsidered. I told her that I was not interested and that I just wanted the OTK. So she placed herself on the futon and told me to lie down on her lap.

She proceeded to give me about 15 - 20 hard swats. I remember thinking that I might be the first person she tried to spank. No rhythm, constant switching of hands and then she said that she was a little winded. She asked me if there was something she could use beside her hand. I replied that a hairbrush, belt or small paddle would be OK. She had me stand while she left the room and returned with a couple of plastic hairbrushes that looked like they came straight from the bathroom. They looked like they couldn't hurt a Barbie doll. She then dug in her toy chest and produced a wooden paddle that looked like it was made by a first grader in wood shop.

I shook my head no to the paddle and she dug into her toy box some more. She produced a strap then sat back down on the futon and instructed me to lie down on her lap again. She started by giving me about 5-6 swats with her hand then she started using the hairbrushes. I did not feel them at all and she started calling me iron butt and telling me how cute this was. She then tried to use the strap and as anyone knows you can't spank someone with a strap while they are OTK... A strap is better over a stool, horse or chair. After almost hitting herself with it she decided to get back to using her hand. Finally she gave me about 20- 25 swats and then it was all over. How disappointing... All the anticipation lost, excitement gone. I felt like I was on a date that ended with the handshake.

I thought that maybe I should get the tribute and go back and instruct her on giving a proper spanking.

Thanks.
- Mike
P.S. I should get extra punishment for not coming to see you for my OTK!

Dear Mike,
I can’t tell you how many times I have heard similar stories. Spanking is something that is pretty much in-born. The nuances are difficult to learn. It is definitely not like S/M. That’s the reason I decided to do spanking sessions exclusively. I knew there was a need and it’s something I enjoy too. I truly enjoy spanking. I have been into it all my life. The words, the actions and the attitude come natural to me. Why? Because I’m a spanko too.
Some of the pros have learned to spank well and certainly I don’t profess to be the only person who can give a good spanking session. However, consumer beware. Listen to the words and be aware of someone’s attitude. You have every right to ask questions before sessioning.

I spend a great deal of time getting to know someone before I see them. I email with people sometimes for weeks and months before having them lay across my knee. I take the time to know particular turn-ons and hot spots.

Spanking is something that is different for everyone. For example some people like to be spanked on their ‘bottom’, others like to be spanked on their ‘butt. Still others want to be spanked on their ‘tushy’ or ‘heiny’. One word can make all the difference.

I hope we do get together one day so you can experience a real spanking session, tailored specifically for you. Thank you for writing and I am glad you had a place to vent.
- Jacqueline

Dear Ms. Jacqueline Omerta,
I thought you might like to know that I've finished my prospectus. Your punishment spanking really helped to do the trick. Thank you very much. I look forward to seeing you soon, and hope that all is well with you.
Best wishes,
Robert

Dear Robert,
Glad I was able to motivate!
-Jacqueline