Soon after we were married, I heard many of these accounts directly from my mother-in-law, and she did not blush to tell me that she often put Tom over her knee whenever he misbehaved or disobeyed, and that she continued to do this right through his high school years! I was most pleased to hear from her that Tom got spanked good and hard when she caught him home alone with his high school girlfriend! And much to Tom's embarrassment, his mom has told me about many of his other spankings as well!

I understood from these stories that my husband probably needed continued supervision and discipline in our marriage, and I was most willing to be the head of the household. So, I wear the pants in the family and am the family disciplinarian, which includes punishment spankings.

The domestic discipline arrangement with my husband has worked beautifully, and our marriage is as strong and loving as can be. I am fair but strict, and like his mother, will put Tom over my knee if I feel a lesson needs to be learned.

There are some instances of misconduct, however, when I would like to take my husband to a disciplinarian who would give him an objective perspective on his misbehavior, sentence him to an appropriate punishment, and then administer the punishment. In these instances, Tom's behavior is something that affects me personally or emotionally, and I feel that it would be more appropriate for someone impartial to talk to him and punish him as necessary.

I have kept my eye open for someone who would be caring and fair, and your background as a degreed counselor is absolutely ideal! I would feel very comfortable taking or sending Tom to you, as you seem genuinely qualified to counsel my husband and to carry out a spanking to its full completion (something that can be difficult for a wife to do as she hears her husband crying hard and begging her to please stop the spanking). Of course, I have thought about discussing this with my mother-in-law, but it has been over 20 years since she has spanked her son, and I am very hesitant to ask her to spank her adult son now. So, when I saw your site, I thought, hmmm .......Is this something that you would consider?

Best regards,
June

Hi June,
Thank you so much for writing. Sounds like you are the ideal wife/disciplinarian. I truly applaud you and think you are doing an excellent job.

I agree that sometimes it is better to take your husband to an impartial disciplinarian. As you said, sometimes there’s too much emotional investment in a couples situation. Real punishment is best done by someone who can be fair and impartial. It will also be far more humiliating, threatening and embarrassing for him to have to report for a spanking. Imagine how it will feel for him to have to face his disciplinarian, be admonished for his misdeeds and be guided over my lap. I’m sure he will feel the fear down to the pit of his stomach as I lower his pants and raise up my hand. I always make the first stroke memorable so he can anticipate a thorough, sound, very real punishment spanking.

Do bring Tom to me for punishment. I’d love for you to accompany him but if that’s not possible send him to me with a note from you. That way you’re presence will be in the room whether you are physically there or not. I will make sure he returns home with a red, sore bottom. At that time, you should administer another spanking just from you to remind him who’s boss!

June, I don’t suggest you bring this up to your mother in law. I think that would be inappropriate as this is a personal matter. Who wants a meddling mother in law? You wear the pants in the family now and punishment should be determined, administered or directed by you.

Dear Jacqueline,
OK, my creative juices started flowing after our visit and I jotted this down in the plane, but have not had time to send it to you. It captures some of our special moments and something I’d like for us to enact in our next session.

Ms. Carrie A. Birch, Instructress
Stupid School
Nowhere, California

Dear Ms. Birch:
This is one of those letters, which may get ripped up before it gets sent, or I may immediately regret dropping it in the mailbox after I do.

As you know, I am now back home on vacation after Mom, who you know as Mrs. Daisy Liberal, picked me up from school. At first, Mom was upset that you and Principal Thrasher called her and wanted to have her personally come to pick me up. She knew that other students live near us and she is a very busy woman. I am pleased to tell you that after a rocky start, Mom thought the trip was very worthwhile and she is very impressed with your stupid school, its Principal, and you as a classroom teacher.

I have to admit that I was really angry and upset when I learned four months ago that you would be my summer school teacher. You had a reputation for strict rules and didn’t tolerate any nonsense.

From the start, I hated your rules. You know why I disliked them? Because instead of stupid rules about meaningless things, you had rules designed to help us. You told us to get to class on time, behave during class and get our work done and in on time. You explained why those rules were important, although I really did not take you seriously.

That was my first mistake. Ms. Birch, I have always been able to get by without much effort and talk my way out of any problem. Its not as if you were abrupt or unclear. When I got my third slip for being late and you ordered after school detention, I thought it was a joke. That was my second mistake. I arrived late, just to show you who were boss.

That was my third mistake. You were waiting for me with chair in the middle of the room and the hairbrush sitting on it.

I could not believe that you were actually going to spank me. You went one step further and bared my bottom. Even worse, instead of being bent over a table for a paddling, strapping, or the birch, you put me over your knee, just like you would do for a little kid. I could not believe you did that!

You know, that spanking really hurt, but instead of feeling beaten, another feeling came over me. You lectured me about the consequences of my behavior and that someone had to take me to task so I could grow up a little. You said that you had to spank all of the anger and bad behavior out of me and that I would be able to start with a new slate.

I don't know why, but that comment really got to me. It made me feel better even though my bottom was feeling really bad.

After the spanking was over, you made me feel like I was forgiven and I did well in your class for a week or so. Then, I turned in a paper late and instead of lowering my grade, you kept me after school again, and lowered my pants for a second time. You paddled me hard and made clear that you want my bottom to pay for misbehavior, not my academic record.

Since that second spanking, I only needed one more due to the unfortunate misjudgment of putting the frog in your desk drawer. I don't know why I did it, and I sensed that you were giggling a little when you strapped me over the chair, but there was nothing funny about the condition of my bottom that night.

Anyhow, my grades are much better and we seem to be a good student-teacher match. I have learned to obey the few rules which you establish and I have learned the consequences for not following them.

Now, as for Mom, as I said, she was very upset having to leave her real estate business to drive and come pick me up. She told me that she was going to give Principal Thrasher a piece of her mind about wasting a single parent's time. However, my Liberal mother sang a very different tune when we went out for dinner after her meeting with the Principal.

Do you know why she called ahead to the restaurant to see if they had padded chairs to sit upon? When we got to the hotel room that night, and came out of the bathroom after my shower, I saw Mom in her nightgown looking backwards over her shoulder in the full length mirror. She quickly let the back of the nightgown fall back down, but I think I saw some redness similar to that from when I visited you for after school detention!

Mom told me that she had tried to be a good mom, but that she had neglected me. She was now glad that she had sent me to your stupid school and the caring people who work there. She also said that she most regretted neglecting my bottom, a mistake for which she said she would make up for lost time. I did not ask what she meant by that, but I had a good idea after my summer with you.

On our ride home, Mom praised the Principal’s methods and said that if I ever got punished by him, she would come down to school and give a second one herself, right in his office! Boy, has Mom changed; she used to criticize others who tried to punish her innocent boy.

Since I have been home on vacation, Mom has established rules for me to follow and she has been home to enforce them. I thought when I violated curfew on my first weekend home that Mom would ignore it, either being out late herself or just letting it pass like she always has. Another mistake, Mom was waiting for me with a shiny new long-handled hairbrush and boy did she give it to me!

Well, this letter is getting long, so I will close it, but, I just want you to know that I think you are a very special teacher who cares about her students. I look forward to being in your class again. I know I will probably wind up over your lap again for doing something wrong, but if I do, I know that you will deal with the problem fairly and effectively, and then help me move on to more positive behavior.
Yours,
- Tim Liberal

Dear Jacqueline,
My name is Laura been married for and really need to add some household discipline to our home. I know my husband has an interest in spanking because I found some spanking sights to include yours on our computer. It appears he mostly shows interests in domestic type discipline and if you could please tell me what book I could buy as general guideline or maybe just a email with some good ideas.

I am not a total novice. I just want to know how hard can I push it within reason. I don’t want to hurt / abuse him but I do want to get my point across. I purchased a really nice paddle and when I test it in my hand I just wonder if it too much? Then I have hand tried a couple of switches that I just cut from our backyard and it seems to be too much. How can I maintain control without going too far?
- Laura

Dear Laura,
Spanking and corporal punishment is a last resort. You need to establish guidelines and set boundaries. Sometimes the use of behavior modification can also be help. For example, when your husband does something you like, such as take out the garbage, give him praise. “I like that you’re taking out the garbage. That’s really helpful.” As opposed to “It’s about time that garbage is being taken out.”

When your husband blatantly disobeys or ignores your wishes over and over, then and only then should you punish. If you spank too often, the spanking won’t make as much impact.

Jacqueline,
The first time we met I was really so happy to have experienced such a fantastic evening. Imagine then, that the second meeting was even better – I owe you a really big thank you indeed. I was certainly sorer than the last time though everything cleared up in a timely fashion.

I would really like to thank you for the way that you succeeded in the scenario play. You were able to set the scene really well, and really make the scenarios come to life.

Maybe the scenarios were so in line with my fantasies that I was sure to be excited; but frankly they were useless without the realism that you gave them.

Our meeting was very special this time & I cannot wait for another time.

Your spanking block is really excellent; so well conceived. Over it I felt very comfortable initially, and then I sensed an absolute vulnerability. Somehow more vulnerable than over the knee, I think because of being detached from the Disciplinarian and so the sensation is more like a thrashing than a (loving) hard spanking. In reality the force of the spanking and the pain is entirely related to the whim of Mistress; for example over the knee the brush or wooden paddle can sting like a thousand bees whereas a few mild strokes of the cane stings a lot less.

I think that your use of the dice was excellent. Can you imagine how apprehensive I was seeing all the implements laid out and then to be given a dice which showed 25 to 50 on it! Brilliant; then you were really excellent at being light with the hard marking implements while being heavy with others. The next time though I really need to have more recovery time available so that you can be a bit stricter and maybe use more implements. I am certainly wondering how the 5-cane instrument would feel!

There is no doubt that there are two implements which are guaranteed to get me in an emotional state; the cane and the thin whip (like a dressage whip). I adore the noise they make and when you swished the cane through the air it was a real turn on as well as apprehensive fear.

As I said the scenarios were really great, though inanimate until you brought them to life. The babysitter on the phone to my wife was really great, and you certainly did use your imagination to bring out the aspects of humiliation and physical punishment.

I hope to see you soon & I will try and get some more scenarios. Thanks for everything.
- Mason

Mason,
Yes, it’s true that spanking sessions are even better the second time around. Though there’s always the thrill of being spanked by someone new in a new environment, familiarity lends itself to more intimate play. Once I get to know someone, I can gage their pain tolerance better and know how to far to take them. I also know what their ‘hot buttons’ are and I know how to make the session as exciting and stimulating as possible.

Spanking has so many nuances. Some people just love good old fashioned over the knee spanking. They can happily lay over my lap and take a lengthy firm spanking over their pants, underpants and bare-bottom. We can always find a reason for the spanking in terms of all kinds of scenarios. Aunties, Teachers, Babysitters, Next Door Neighbors, Managers and believe in taking someone who has misbehaved and giving a well-deserved spanking.

We now know that for you, we need to make the spanking more impartial and disciplinary. That’s where the spanking bench is perfect. Having you strip complete naked and bent over the hard punishment is even more effective. The element of making you arbitrarily sentence yourself with a roll of the dice was extremely effective. That worked well and you can count on that kind of treatment next time we meet.

Dear Jacqueline,
As you have read several of my stories about men being spanked OTK by their wives you know how I feel about this subject. I would like to have your opinion on a new twist that I am thinking about, where the man is spanked every Friday night across his wife's knees, but he becomes very excited about being in this position, so much so that he wants his wife to put him across her knees every night or at least every other night, but not to spank him as he just wants to feel under her power.

So I would like your thoughts on this because since I am a mere male, I have no idea how a woman would respond to such a request. Thank you very much for your time.
- Harold

Dear Harold,
Does it have to be every Friday night…just kidding. I like the idea of reminding a man of his position on a daily basis. Having him in the position is a good symbolic gesture. However, having an upturned bottom over my knee would be way too tempting. I have to admit I wouldn’t be able to keep myself from administering a few good spanks!

Hello Ms. Jacqueline,
My girlfriend introduced me to spanking a while ago - we would try anything and out sex life was great. About a year into our relationship, we hit some bumps in the road - and our sex life sputtered ... slowly, it started to disappear. This downhill slide took about 4 years, however there was a slight upturn during that time. She started spanking me again, reading stories about spanking, buying paddles and the like.

I wasn't totally into spanking, butt I loved the attention! We had some sort of sexual encounter every day for about 8 months. Often it involved spanking, sometimes it was some tease and denial or she might make me put on a dress or hose she bought for me. After 2 years of almost no sex, I was very happy with the development.

Anyway, this all ended over a year ago now. I have been quite preoccupied with what went on during those 8 months (I feel that it is my best shot - and now feel turned on by the ideas), but she doesn't seem interested in any idea. We talked a bit. I was surprised to find out that she felt sexually frustrated ... however we continue to remain celibate.

I have started action up (to goad her into spanking me). She tells me that I'm a brat - or that I'm really asking for it ... she may even make a note of how many swats I should get - but then nothing.

Do you think that these things that we did for 8 months no longer turn her on? Do you think that I should just stop doing what I have been doing, and try something else Or, do you think that I should be happy I had 4 years with her, but need to realize when it's over?

Other than the strange sexual situation we share (2 sexually frustrated people, attracted to each other and living in the same house), we get along well. She doesn't like it if I go anywhere without her.. she wants to go to bed at the same time ... but then she just wants to sleep. I know that there are no easy answers - but you have seen more than most of us, so I would appreciate your take on this situation. Should I stop this spanking thing and try ...well, and try and come up with something else?

Thanks for your help - we all Love you!
- Jon

Dear Jon,
The fact that you still get along and she still wants to be with you indicates that this relationship is worth exploring and hopefully preserving. You guys need to sit down and talk with yourselves. Couple counseling might be in order too. You needn't bring up spanking with the therapist, as this is not the issue.

It sounds like you had good chemistry. I applaud your ability to be so flexible and versatile in your tastes. Your letter demonstrates that it is possible to learn to enjoy spanking even if you don’t have the fetish originally. In your case, I think you enjoyed the attention you got from taking a spanking. And, probably, you enjoyed the sensation as well as the ‘treats’ that eventually come after some erotic spanking play.

Perhaps you should ask her about some of her fantasies? Speak directly since indirect actions haven’t worked. Ask if there’s anything you could do for her? Maybe she’d like a spanking herself or perhaps she’d just like you to hold or massage her back when you get into bed.

Dear Ms. Omerta,
I have earned myself a no-nonsense domestic discipline-style punishment.

My wife, who is supervising my writing of this letter, suggests that I should be bound with my bottom elevated and quite bare, strapped or paddled until I am red and smarting, perhaps continuing with a thrashing from knee to spine with cane or switch, and concluding with an old fashioned hairbrush spanking across your knee until I am simply the sorriest boy in the whole of California.

She feels that you would agree completely that true punishment should be shaming as well as painful, and is confident that you will use all of your expertise to bring me down a peg or two, something she feels I am in dire need of. She feels it hardly needs to be said that any man who would dare utter a curse or swear during a formal correction should expect to have his mouth washed out with soap and that any strokes applied before that intermission would not count towards the completion of his punishment. I will present myself at the time you and my wife set.

A note from my wife follows...
Sincerely and contritely,
Mark

From Sally...
Monday evening, we were out to dinner. My husband had had a few drinks, and I made the obvious decision that I would drive us home. Not only did he refuse to give me the car keys, he made quite a little scene outside the restaurant. He continued to refuse to obey me, and I ended up taking a cab home. Now, I am quite capable of disciplining Mark when he's been naughty, or for our mutual pleasure but this is just beyond the pale.

I sent Mark to one of your "sisters" yesterday. My young husband charmed her to the extent that his "punishment" consisted of rubbing her with oil for the first 59 minutes they were together, then she accorded him 10 smacks with a little paddle, from which he had fully recovered within an hour. (I'll name her if you wish, but needless to say, I don't think much of her). Anyway, what's done is done. It is my intention to deliver him personally to you and to witness the session, despite his empassioned; even desperate pleas that he be spared the humiliation of having me watch the first proper thrashing of his life. I hope that's acceptable to you, for I'm afraid I must insist. ("Fool me once"...If I had just gone with him yesterday, that fiasco would've been avoided).

Lastly, I wish to know plainly that you are as concerned as I am over his conduct, that you are willing and expert at administering a non-fantasy, non-sexual, non-fun correction, and that you will spare him nothing.

Thank you,
Sally

Sally and Mark,
It’s very refreshing to hear from a couple that lives the disciplinary lifestyle. Sally, you sound like a good wife who knows how to keep her husband in line. I agree that Mark deserves a good sound, punishment spanking for the way he behaved at dinner as well as to put him in his place. As Mark said, ‘he needs to be put down a peg or two…” I couldn’t agree more.

Don’t worry, Sally he won’t charm his way out of spanking with me. Like you, I take my role as Disciplinarian extremely seriously. Anytime a wife sends her husband to me for a spanking, I teach him a lesson he’ll never forget. Nobody worms his way out of punishment from me. When a spanking is in order, it’s delivered properly, efficiently and seriously.

I’m glad that you would like to attend our session. I think your presence will make the punishment way more meaningful. I think we need to first sit down and address your behavioral concerns. Drinking and driving is not acceptable. Neither is rude behavior. We will need to verbally scold, chastise and educate your husband. The spanking is administered to reinforce the lesson.

Thank you all for your letters. Keep them coming and feel free to reference and refer to any letter posted.
- Jacqueline Omerta