Women Are Natural Born Disciplinarians
Men are grown little boys who require structure, guidance and discipline. As women, we need to mother our little boys. In addition to nurturing, we must set and enforce boundaries. It's my contention that nothing works better than a good swift spanking for men who get out of line.

How to Begin
In a disciplinary relationship, power struggles are eliminated. The female decides when and how the punishment occurs. The male agrees to accept punishment at any time. He is spanked when his woman sees fit to do the spanking. He has no say when or how this will occur. "I'm not in the mood" is no longer an option.

Communicate. Both of you must be sure that you are OK with this type of relationship. Commitment is key.

Setting Up Ground Rules
Treat your man like the child he is. Make a list of rules with accompanying consequences for disobedience. Be as specific and succinct as possible.

Example. If you want him to take the trash out, write down which night and what time. State exactly what happens should he disobey.

State your rules positively. Tell him what you want rather than what you don't want.

Example. It's better to say, "When we go to a party I want you to pay full attention to me" rather than saying, "I don't want you leaving me and flirting with other women."

Begin with the things that are most important to you. You can always add more as time goes on.

Go over your list carefully. Make sure he understands each request. Have him sign the paper and post it in a visible place.

When To Spank
Disciplinarians never spank out of anger. That's why I recommend weekly punishment sessions. Set aside a day and time each week. Keep track of all infractions. Punish accordingly.

Punishment sessions must occur each week. If your man has been very good, he still needs a spanking to keep him in place. The 'reminder' spanking should be OTK and relatively mild.

Every now and then, immediate correction may be appropriate. Swift spankings are effective if administered in a calm and rational manner.

Beginning The Discipline Session
Your man should report at the designated time. You may want to assign him a special spanking outfit. I recommend clothing that is comfortable and easy to remove. Sweatpants, T-shirt with underpants is standard.

Read the rules and let your man know how he's displeased you. Tell him exactly how he'll be punished. Begin with a traditional over the knee spanking. OTK spankings establish an intimate bond. They are nurturing and should be administered with care and love.

How to Administer an OTK Hand Spanking
Sit on a straight back chair with good posture: legs together slightly angled. Bend the naughty boy over your knee with his trousers on. Give him about 20 solid spanks over his clothes and then have him remove his pants for an underpants spanking.

When you spank, cup your hand to mold against his lower buttocks. Remember to spank solidly and build up the intensity of the spanking. I like to start with a volley of 50-100 spanks. In between these volleys, I rub the buttocks.

Lower the underpants. Remind him that part of his punishment is humiliation. It's embarrassing to be spanked bare bottom. Spend a great deal of time on the bare bottom spanking. Spank rhythmically and alternate cheeks.

Remember to check your man's head. When the head is lowered, blood can rush in, so do not keep him over your knee for more than 15 minutes at a time. An alternative way is to spank on a couch.

A good hand spanking should redden the bottom. You can spank for long periods of time without leaving a single mark.

Hairbrush Spankings
Very naughty boys get the brush. Nothing punishes like the hairbrush. Use with discretion. It should be reserved for times when he's really gotten out of line. Be aware that hairbrush spankings bruise the bottom.

Other Implements
I recommend easy to find items. Wooden spoons and spatulas are very effective. Switches can be picked from your own backyard. Leather belts are sold everywhere. Canes can be found in certain specialty shops. Wooden paddles are simple to make.

If your husband is handy, it may be fun to have him make his own spanking devices. I also recommend the perfect spanking hairbrush and paddles sold by my company, Pacific Force, Inc.

Paddling, Strapping, Caning
Practice using these implements on a pillow before using them on your man. Just like tennis it's all in the wrist. When I started, I used to mark my pillow with chalk and aim for my target.

Spanking Positions
Have your man strip completely naked for purposes of embarrassment and humiliation. Have him bend over the chair or touch his hands to his knees. Tell him to arch up and ask to be punished.

He can also be positioned flat on his tummy on the couch or your bed. Several pillows to prop up his bottom are a nice touch.

Additional Ways To Punish
Though spanking is my personal favorite, you can and should employ other forms of punishment to drive the lesson home. I have several suggestions.

1) Tiger Balm - This is an ointment found in most drug stores. Apply a very small amount to his exposed asshole or balls. Watch him squirm as the cream burns his skin. Apply this balm during the spanking for intense punishment.

2) Asshole whipping/spanking - Use in conjunction with tiger balm or as a separate form of punishment

3) Dildos and buttplugs - These are very effective for the overly macho man. Stuff something inside his butt and watch his uppity attitude disappear once and for all.

4) Smothering - Sitting on a male and cutting off his air supply is a wonderful way to punish. Increase the punishment by forcing him to stick his tongue in your asshole and lick it clean.

5) Enemas - Very good for purging and clearing out bad behavior. A spanking combined with an enema makes your man as good as new.

6) Toilet Time - Bad boys deserve to be pissed on. If you're adventurous, make him drink your golden lemonade.

7) Corner time - Standing in the corner gives plenty of time for reflection.

8) Writing Lines - Give him a writing assignment. Choose a specific behavior you'd like to change and have him write the sentence over and over.

9) Essay Writing - Have him write an essay entitled, 'What I Learned From My Punishment Session'.

10) Household Chores - Assign some extra, undesirable household tasks in addition to his regular chores.

Sex and Spanking
An orgasm is a reward. If you're husband has taken his punishment well, you may reward him with an orgasm. Allow him to masturbate while you watch.

As Disciplinarian, you deserve your own orgasm. Have your partner pleasure you in whatever way you desire. If he doesn't do well, you can spank him again.

Post Punishment Nurturing
Hugs are always in order. Remember to tell your man that all is forgiven and he can begin his week with a clean slate. Give him praise and positive reinforcement. Remember that you're a good Mommy and you ultimately love your little boy. If you didn't love him, you wouldn't spank him!

In Summary
Spankings are a loving, effective way towards establishing a solid relationship. Taking control of your man empowers you as a woman and will guarantee happiness. Men are comfortable with women who state their needs. Remember that they grew up listening to their Moms. They can be trained to listen to you.

Contact Jacqueline Omerta
If you have any questions feel free to contact me. I can help couples form their own individual guides for a disciplinary relationship. Sometimes women are reticent to spank their men severely. Send him to me. I can assist you, or discipline him on my own. I'm also available for single men who need spankings, punishment and guidance.

- Jacqueline Omerta