Meet An Adult Spanking Expert
Interview with Jacqueline Omerta
Jacqueline Omerta

Jacqueline Omerta is most known for her video company. Her company produced many types of fetish videos, from straight spanking to esoteric punishment, as well as publishing the magazines "Spankasm!" and "Women Who Spank Men".

Jacqueline also sings, dances and plays percussion instruments and saxophone in the SPIT band, which has performed all over the country and is famous for incorporating on-stage spanking into the act. Formerly known as Mistress Jacqueline, she is the author of "Whips and Kisses", a candid biography about her years in the Hollywood B&D club scene, and has appeared on numerous television shows in an effort to educate the general public as to how respectable most of us fetishists really are and what a bad rap we've been given by the media.

Many of you have seen Jacqueline in video and photos and thought about arranging a visit on your next trip to Los Angeles but would like more details as to the specifics of a spanking session. So we have posed a number of typical questions in order to demystify one of the few non-tourist trap diversions Los Angeles has to offer the sophisiticated traveler, namely it's excellent array of professional spanking options.

 

Q. Jacqueline Omerta, roughly how many men have you spanked?

That's a hard question. Let's say, how many men haven't I spanked. Seriously, I've probably spanked nearly a thousand in my 15 year career. I truly love spanking and try to do it every opportunity I get. It's as much fun to get an unsuspecting newcomer on stage as it to break in a newbie. In fact, many newcomers come to me for their first spanking. I find it very rewarding to help others overcome their fears and inhibitions. I provide a safe environment and maximum spanking enjoyment.

Q. Of that number, what percentage were totally submissive and what percentage were switchable?

I think most men are switchable; more so than women. Women tend to like to stick to one role while men like to enjoy both sides. Of course there are your purists but I'd say at least 80 percent are willing to explore being spanked as well as giving a spanking. However, out of that percentage most people definitely have a preference. There are very few who are 50/50 switches.

Q. With regard to receiving corporal punishement, have you noticed any difference between the wants and needs of submissive and switchable males?

Switchable men enjoy role playing. I create many scenarios and story lines so that we can pick and choose. True submissives want a more disciplinary session. They come to me so that I may assuage some real guilt or resolve a real-life dilemna.

Q. In a typical spanking session, are a particular sequence of actions or events most often followed?

Every one of my sessions is different. I believe in a great deal of communication prior to a session. Spanking is tricky because it's so personal. People fantasize about all kinds of things. It's pertinent to know what age they go to when they are being spanked - some people like to imagine they are young children, some people like to be adolescent and others prefer to be their own adult age. Of course, the way I relate to them is in direct proportion to this age factor. Also,there's a big difference between a regular spanking and a punishment spanking. Punishment spankings require scolding and a strict attitude. I find all this out and more prior to a session so that I can be as efffective as possible.

Q. You've spanked a good many females as well as males, have you found any differences between the intensity of spanking desired by each sex?

Again, everyone is different. I've spanked many women who can take as hard or harder spanking than their male counterparts. Everyone has a different pain tolerence and level of punishment. Sometimes it varies. Depending on the day and situation, sometimes people go deeper into sub space on one ocassison than the next.

Q. What have you found to be the favorite position of submissives?

I think everyone likes traditional OTK. I know that's my favorite. Like spanking itself, it's intimate, nurturing and sometimes healing.

Q. What are the three favorite implements of submissives?

There's nothing like a hand spanking. The hand is what everyone craves. Unfortunately not everyone can use their hand. Fortunately, mine never grows tired and I'm very strong. Hairbrush and paddle are also favorites with strap and cane as close seconds.

Q. How long does a typical spanking session last?

My spanking sessions are not typical in that they go on for hours. Oftentimes people (especially newcomers) plan on a one hour session. One hour turns into 4 - 6 hours. Generally, they go on and on because we both really get into it and we talk about spanking a great deal in between. When it comes to spanking, I truly can play all night.

   

Q. Is scolding included as a rule, or must the client specifically request it?

Spanking and scolding go hand in hand. If we are doing a role play or I'm spanking for a specific reason, I can get pretty verbal. I like the person to know exactly why they are getting a spanking. I want them to feel like they are deserving of their punishment. Once the spanking gets underway, I keep quiet so that we can both concentrate on the impact of the punishment.

Q. How often does cross dressing play a part in a spanking session?

Most real spanking enthusiasts are not full blown cross dressers though there is the ocassional panty waste who I dress up in panties. Wearing girly panties is part of the punishment and the humiliation that goes hand in hand with a naughty over-the-knee bare bottom spanking.

 

Q. Do spanking specific people ever request restraints as an accessory to the corporal punishment?

That's a little more cross over. Generally true spanking enthusiasts relate more to domestic type scenarios. Parents, teachers and real disciplinarians don't generally use restraint. Their victims stay in place because they know better than to move or get out of line. I don't think real restraints is a part of a corporal punishment scene unless we are doing a prison or military type scenario.

Q. Do you ever see grown-up babies? If so, how do you deal with them?

I love grown up babies. Little babies need little baby spankings in their diapers; especially if they get them wet!

Q. Do you ever incorporate flogging into a spanking session?

That's more S/M. This would be a good place for me to state that there's a big difference between Dominant/submissive scenes and spanking scenes. Many, many professional Dominatrixes don't know the difference. Since I'm a pure spanking person, I understand and deliver pure, traditional spanking sessions with an emphasis on the domestic. Of course, if someone has a desire to be flogged and tied, I respect their wishes. I'm very versatile and flexible when it comes to doing a session. I know how to communicate and make people feel comfortable enough to divulge their innermost fantasies and secrets. The more someone tells me; the better our session will be.

Q. Any one can cane someone to where they are miserable. Can you cane someone to where they love the feeling?

Accuracy is the key. That applies to the cane as well as any implement. If used correctly, an implement will sting but not irriate. Nothing makes a person come out of sub space more than improper use of equipment.

Q. Are you capable of laying on extremely severe discipline if requested?

Definitely and I love to do it. Watch any of my videos. I'm famous for taking people way past their limits (with their consent of course). I've even been known to make a few people break down and cry.

Q. Are you able to give someone a vigorous spanking session without leaving marks?

Again, that's the key to knowing how to use your implements. I've seen people marked up by the inexperienced. If you know how to spank, you can deliver a very, very severe spanking with hand, hairbrush, paddle and strap without leaving a single mark.

Q. Do you employ corner time?

Only if requested. Of course, I send someone into the corner at the end of a role play. However, since sessions are time limited, I like to make better use of my time. In between scenarios we generally talk over a drink or cup of coffee.

Q. Have you ever had a client who requested you wash his mouth out with soap come back for a second mouth wash out?

Why not? If mouth washing is a request, you can be sure he'll return. However, in reality few people generally make that request. I think soaping is something we'd rather think about than actually experience. It can be nasty!

Q. Do you ever give straight counseling to someone who is simply confused or frustrated at being into spanking and not being able to connect with a partner?

All the time. I also run support groups and give individual therapy to many who have concerns about their spanking fantasies. Generally my goal is to help normalize the fantasty and let the individual feel self-acceptance and peace. Spanking is something that many of us are born with. This fetish does not go away. The best thing to do is embrace spanking and enjoy.

Q. It's no secret that in our scene there are more men who want to be spanked than there are women who want to spank them. Why do you think this is?

Traditional sex role socialization. Women fantasize about the strong, capable man who takes on the role of protector and provider. John Wayne is a perfect example. He spanks sensibly and out of love for his woman. He rescues and care takes. Very old-fashioned concepts.

Happily, I think the tables are turning. Younger women, now in their twenties grew seem to have no problems or hang-ups about giving a spanking. These younger women do not know from female oppression. Times have changed. Women have more options now. Especially in the workplace. It follows that these new roles will translate to the bedroom. These younger women are very comfortable giving a spanking. In fact, spanking is not so taboo to them at all. It's becoming a pretty standard option and an acceptable part of foreplay.

   

Q. Can you recommend anything that a submissive or switchable male can do to interest his non-spanking lady in playing with him?

Oh yes. Spanking can change a marriage. It can give many ladies the upperhand that she deserves. Men are like naughty little boys. They need boundaries set and rules to follow. By spanking their men, women can take charge. The guys need to educate their woman and teach them. Communication is the key. Sometimes it's helpful to share Fem/Dom videos, magazines or go to an understanding female Disciplinarian like me. I've personally worked and counseled many couples. My non-conventional spanking therapy has changed many marriages for the bettter.

Q. When, in your opinion, is someone ready to see a Pro Disciplinarian?

Most people know. I've had many people well into their 40's or 50s come to me for a first ever session. I always ask them why they've waited so long and they say that they waited until the time felt right. Many come when they are in some kind of life transition. Most seek out of session when they are so obsessed with their fantasies that they are bursting to play.

 

Q. Some people have qualms about visiting any type of professional in the scene. They worry about the cost, the sincerity of the mistress, the privacy factor, etc. How would you aussage these fears?

Their fears are well founded. Everyone should be cautious about visiting a professional. It's the client's responsibility to do his research. They should talk to several professionals before making a selection. They should see who makes them feel comfortable and who seems to have knowledge about their fantasy.

I'm very particular about new clients. I talk to them at length before scheduling a session. I'm not a budget Mistress. I don't see people who call me cold. I expect to develop a relationship before the session. I expect to know a real phone number; not a cell phone or hotel phone number. I'm cautious because I can be. I'm not a fly by night person or amateur. Be very wary of someone who says. "Come on over". Those are the people to avoid.

Q. What are some extreme fantasies you've enacted with clients?

Nothing is extreme as long as it is between two consenting adults. Like my clients, I have limitations but if it's safe and fun I'll do anything from playing the part of cannibal to jail warden.

Q. Exactly what should a client expect from a Disciplinarian? What also should he not expect?

A client should be expected to be treated like a human being. His limits should be respected. Since he's paying for the session, he should get pretty much what was negotiated up front. In turn, he should not expect his Mistress to be his girlfriend or companion. Though the relationship is personal, it's still a business transaction. A client pays for his time and should not expect it to go out of the created boundaries.

Q. How may our readers contact you for an appointment?

Email me and tell me more about you and your experience with adult spanking. Include as much information as you can such as when you received your first adult spanking (if you have), when you got into spanking, your favorite experiences, favorite fantasies and your expectations about a session with me. Please let me know if you have ever been a Pacific Force customer and if not, how you found out about me. We will correspond for a bit through email and then we will talk on the phone. I really like to get to know someone well before a personal meeting. The more I know about you; the better our session will be.

Your next trip to Los Angeles should also include a trip over my knee.

 
Jacqueline Omerta is a professional counselor with an expertise in sexuality and fetish behavior. She has a Master’s Degree in Clinical Psychology and over 20 years experience with sexual fantasy and fetish. She is the president and co-founding member of Pacific Force, Inc. She writes and directs all scenarios and story lines for Pacific Force movies. She overseas the production of all movies in order to insure authenticity and accurate portrayal of the spanking fetish and lifestyle. She is available for consultation through the contact information below.
 
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